Wow, where do I begin other than to say I’m SO FULL!
Literally the entirety of 27th December was spent in bed eating. Eating anything! It started with bubble and squeak and all went downhill from there.
In one day I had destroyed the cheese selection, eaten all the bread in the house not to mention the chocolates.
I’ve eaten to such excess that I’ve woken up still feeling so full!
It looks as though a natural disaster has ripped through my house leaving plates, glasses and wrapping paper in its path. If we had an attempted burglary they would think our house had already been hit and move on!
If I’m honest I confined myself to one room to ignore the disaster that had been left from Christmas. I can’t bare to look at all the ‘stuff’ I need to find homes for so I just decided to pretend it’s not there for the day instead.
Today will be my ‘get shit done day’ although I am still considering doing it with the help of prosecco just to make it bearable. Yesterday I ate, today I drink!
One of my favourite things about this time of year is all judgement goes out the window! Chocolate roulade for breakfast, oh go on then. Gin at 10am, why not!
Come the new year I have no choice but to hit the healthy eating and workout regime hard so I don’t look like a toilet roll cover on my wedding day! With that said I am going out with a bang!!!!
Until that sad day comes in which I have to face reality I shall be eating and drinking to complete excess!
However you spend your time at Christmas I hope you’re having a wonderful time!!!!!
Normally my posts are light-hearted and making a joke of everyday situations but I know I am not the only one dealing with grief this Christmas so wanted to write something that may help someone else who feels the same as I do.
Sadly this is the first Christmas me and my sister will have without our dad who tragically passed away in March this year.
Whilst I want to be excited and feeling festive I’m not afraid to say I’m really struggling. I feel a HUGE void where my Dad should be. He should be sat at my table this Christmas enjoying it with the rest of us and it completely breaks my heart that he won’t be! Having said that I know he wouldn’t want me spending the day crying (which I probably will be anyway as ill be locked away in the kitchen) so I looked up so ways to deal with grief at Christmas. None of these things may help but its worth a try to attempt to fill the emptiness that I and others will be feeling this year.
Before I go into some of the things I’ve read, one thing I did do is buy him a present. I know it may sound silly to some people but to me, its helped. It’s a little windchime that I will be placing at his grave on Christmas day with an angel on. My dad used to buy me angels as little gifts so it felt fitting.
So onto some of the things I’ve read about:
Acknowledge that the holidays will be different and they will be tough.Don’t try and force yourself to be ok and strong. It doesn’t help anyone, certainly not yourself because all of that pent-up emotion is going to come out at some point! It’s going to be hard, it’s going to be different but go with it and feel how you feel.
Create a new tradition in memory of your loved one.I think ill light a candle by his picture as I often do, go and visit his resting place and have a Sloe Gin with him (he made the best Sloe Gin so I think he would approve).
Make a donation to a charity that was important to your loved one in their name.I will be looking for a sepsis charity to donate to. It doesn’t have to be a lot but what a gift to be able to put towards a cause that could potentially prevent further deaths in the future in honour of the special person you lost.
Skip an event if it’s all getting too much.Like many of us, there are so many events over Christmas, don’t feel like you have to show a brave face at all of them. If you’re not feeling up to it then don’t go, I’m not saying mope about in the house but keep busy in other ways. People aren’t going to be upset with you, they will understand your reasons.
Talk about your Christmas memories with them.Keep their memory alive, talk about the wonderful times you had together. Surely that’s what they would want, you to remember the fun and laughter you had in previous years.
If leaving an empty seat is too depressing, invite someone who doesn’t have any family to spend the holiday with.This is something I’m trying to do at the moment. I don’t have any grandparents alive but I’ve asked my Fiancee’s Nana if she has any friends that don’t have family that would like to join us Christmas day. I try and turn negatives into positives where I can to make the bad times bearable.
For anyone going through their first Christmas without a loved one it’s going to be tough but remember to try and enjoy yourself and don’t feel selfish for doing so.
Whether you know me or not if I can offer any support, a chat, even just a moan about how unfair it feels then contact me, send me a message, I may not be able to help but I understand the motions and a problem shared is a problem halved.
I wish you all the best Christmas and will keep all of those who are missing someone this year in my thoughts.
I, more than anybody love that feeling of opening your presents, especially when you get a new Christmas outfit!
My day goes like this:
Run a bath with my new bath goodies
Full body moisturise (which I never make part of my normal routine but for some reason do it religiously Christmas day)
Full face of makeup including lashes!
Hair blowdried and styled (when I say styled I do what I can before I get bored)
Put new clothes on
Spray new perfume so much I may as well be fumigating my entire body!
Start on the dinner
My question is, what’s the point?! I’m not leaving the house! I’ve probably done more in this entire time getting ready than I would for a night out and will not be leaving the 4 walls. It’s not like I’m someone who is preened daily. I normally look like I’ve been created in a meth lab as a social experiment! My social media is one big lie I DO NOT LOOK LIKE THAT the majority of the time!
Maybe it’s just a good excuse to be the person I always secretly wish I was. That one who always looks like she has her S**T together so I never have to hear “are you not feeling well” again.
Either way, I will be doing the same this year even after writing this and reflecting on how pointless the effort will be. Maybe its subconsciously in case anyone takes pictures and people ask who the homeless person is they took in for Christmas!
Whatever you are doing, however you are going to look I hope you enjoy it and have the most FABULOUS time!!! xx
Winter is becoming my favourite time of year but there are so many pros and cons for me.
Pro – I absolutely LOVE being inside, cosy, pyjamas on, slippers on, dressing gown on, heating on (yes by this point I’m hotter than the sun and that’s how I like it) especially if it’s snowing outside, there isn’t a better feeling for me. Putting my feet up watching films with a hot chocolate, ok mulled wine is what life is about.
Pro –Winter is perfect for someone like me who will do anything physically possible to not leave the house. Home really is where the heart is and its where I like to be most. I’m not saying I don’t like socialising, we have an open door policy and people are in and out all the time but I just like being at home.
Con – Where the negatives come is all the nasty bugs that linger. As someone with Asthma winter isn’t kind to me. I can guarantee if there is a bug going around I will catch it! Last Christmas and new year me and Charlie spent the whole thing in bed, literally 2 weeks. We missed the last Christmas I would have had with my Dad unknowingly which is the hardest pill to swallow. Christmas day we didn’t leave the bed unless it was to puke. We missed one of our close friend’s weddings. We did attempt to celebrate new years eve and barely made it to 12 before having to leave, it was miserable!
This year I am determined to avoid the same fate. I was offered a flu jab but said no which I’m not sure was the wrong or right idea. I’m a big believer in trying to build my immunity but thus far it hasn’t really worked out so maybe I’ll reconsider.
There are some things I was advised to try as deterrents but by this stage, it was too late. This year, however, I will be trying all the deterrents I was advised of last year.
Turmeric. I had no idea this was such a good natural anti-inflammatory. I’ve had the tablets from Holland and Barret and they are brilliant but I’m sure you can get them in lots of places or try adding a spoon full of turmeric to lemon ginger and honey with hot water.
Colloidal silver water. Again something id not heard of until last year but there are so many benefits to using this. It’s worth looking into the benefits as it helps to treat so much. It helps to support the body’s immune system so well worth having some in the cupboard for a variety of things.
I found a list of foods to eat for colds found here. I don’t think its any secret that when you are run down good healthy foods can help to get your body the vitamins and nutrients it needs to recover.
Whilst I will always try natural remedies first sometimes you just need to hit the hard stuff and there is nothing better for a stuffy nose and a lack of sleep due to coughing all night that a good old bit of night nurse. Yes, it will put you into a semi-coma so my advice would be to take it earlier rather than later as there is a very large possibility you won’t be hearing your alarm!
Con (which can easily be turned into a pro) – Another thing to address is how much pressure we put on ourselves regarding Christmas presents. I don’t think children expect the mountain of presents parents feel as though they have to provide. Surely as parents (I’m pointing out now I’m not a parent so I may be wrong here), you are setting the initial expectation. If you are going to buy 20 presents are they all going to be played with? Are you spending a fortune on toys that are forgotten in 5 minutes? Think about your Christmas’s as a child. Yes it was exciting to get presents, absolutely, but that isn’t the bit that stands out most for me. Being with my family, playing board games together, Christmas dinner, music and everyone being happy and together are what I have the fondest memories of. We were always very aware as children of the value of money and that things were expensive and we couldn’t always have what everyone else could and honestly we didn’t mind because we knew our parents had done what they could for us which is also a great life lesson. It really made us appreciate everything we have. Christmas is mostly about making it magical for the children so focus on them and then maybe consider a secret Santa for the adults. Try making things, if you like to cook make food gifts. If you’re crafty make candles, knit a scarf, make something decorative, Hobbycraft has some amazing ideas.
Pro – Winter comfort food. Pass the carbs to the left-hand side! Where do I start, cottage pie, stew and dumplings, roasted anything, soups. Winter food is 100% my favourite. My slow cooker really feels the love from October to April.
Pro – Winter clothes. Oversized jumpers are life. Not only are they comfy but they hide a multitude of sins. Just loungewear in general is what life is about for me.
Pro – Eating dessert is encouraged. Mince pie anyone? Christmas pudding? Yule log? Literally, people become offended if you don’t eat their homemade treats and I, for one, am not going to argue with them!
Pro – Snow is beautiful.
Con – It snows every year near enough yet the UK comes to a standstill each time it does.
Pro – Christmas films. If you don’t watch Elf annually then we can’t be friends.
Basically anything about Christmas time for me is a pro, the lights, Christmas Trees, it’s just so pretty.
In summary, it appears the pros outweigh the cons. Bring on everything winter related and make sure you are doing everything in your power to avoid the lurgy xx